Having a big imagination sucks when you crush on someone, because you get invested quickly. The longer you wait for them to make a move, the harder their rejection hits. After a while, the ‘no’ will stop being scary. But at the end of the day, they are just a person, same as you. It may feel that way, the first few times, especially if you like to assess a situation before getting involved. Being told ‘no’ is not the end of the world. If both of you want the date, it doesn’t matter who suggests it.) 3. Farewell!” Who talks like this? And more importantly, why would you want someone like that in your life? (It doesn’t matter if you’re casual friends or if you’re already hooking up. Alas, my fair lady, your assertiveness has shriveled up my interest. “Well, I would have asked you out if you’d only waited five more months. If the other person is into you, they won’t care you initiated things. I’m not saying that everyone who is LGBTQUIA+ is great at communicating and setting expectations straight out of the gate (ahem) but it shows the future of the relationship does not depend solely on the person doing the asking. The rule to let men do the asking pretty much falls apart outside of a traditional heterosexual context. Not everyone out there is straight or cis. We’re adults, knowing what we want, asking honestly for it, and taking no for an answer is part of the deal.
It’s not a gender thing, or an empowerment thing, it’s not playing games or trying to establish some sort of relationship pecking order. Yes, none of these turned out into a relationship. But I find it pretty much useless otherwise. It’s a good enough advice if you’re stuck on someone and you need a kick up the arse to move on.
That a woman deserves to be courted, and that a worthy man will put in the necessary effort to win her over. A common dating “rule” is that women should never have to ask a guy out – that, if he is into them, he would have asked them out already.
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